Various Ways Divorce Can Impact Children
Posted on November 16th, 2018 by Oddo & Babat, P.C.
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Divorce is tough on everyone involved, including the children. In fact, a divorce can affect kids even more because they are too young to handle everything that goes into it. If you are currently going through a divorce, it is important to keep an extra watchful eye on your children and cater to their needs. Here are some of the various ways divorce can impact children:
Strained Relationships With Parents
When two parents are going through a divorce, the children will typically be sent to live with one parent and then have visitation with the other parent. Kids who are used to seeing both parents every day may struggle to adjust with this living arrangement. They will likely see one parent much less frequently than usual and may not have as close of a relationship with that parent as a result.
Depression
Children whose parents are divorcing may go through bouts of depression. They are sad that their parents are not together anymore and may blame themselves for what happened. All of this emotional distress they feel may cause them to isolate themselves from their friends and stay in their room most of the time.
Lower Academic Performance
Because children are going through such an emotional time with their parents’ divorce, they may struggle with their studies. They may have trouble concentrating in class and not understand what their teacher is saying to them. These children may not do their homework and do poorly on their tests, resulting in low grades.
Financial Issues
When parents switch from having two combined incomes to two homes with separate incomes, there may be some financial instability at least in the beginning. With parents on tighter budgets, children might not enjoy some of the luxuries they are used to. For example, they might not get the clothes or toys as frequently or be able to go out to dinner or the movies as often.
Substance Abuse
Teenagers whose parents are getting divorced may experience such emotional distress that they turn to drugs or alcohol. Drinking or doing drugs may help numb out their emotions and help them feel better for the time being. However, extended drug or alcohol use can negatively impact their lives and make the entire situation even worse.
The idea of your children going through any of this can be scary as a parent to think about. That is why you should always be there for them and assure them that they can talk to you about anything. If you suspect your children are going through any emotional distress from the difference, you should not hesitate to take them to see a therapist.
If you have any questions regarding to child custody and divorce, schedule a consultation with an experienced family attorney. He or she will take the time to address all of your questions and concerns and advise you the best way to proceed.
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